As I gear up to hit the streets again tomorrow in protest of the local bakery, I wanted to write about some challenging “online chatter” I received after the last Friday we were out picketing. It was a lesson in humility, practicing what you preach and being consistent.
As I was getting ready last time, I knew I’d have some extra folks joining us – so I made some more signs. I also saw a friend’s re-rendering of the bakery’s logo, from “111Cakery” to “111Hatery.” I thought it was catchy, and decided to use it in some of the new posters. I created a couple new phrases on the fly, and they were “influenced” by this logo remake.
And that’s where I honestly strayed from my own wishes to keep this “peaceful, compassionate and considerate.” Gulp…eating humble pie.
Since this was the second week, news about the bakery’s actions had spread a little more with time and some press coverage. There were clearly more folks on the road who knew the situation, and many chose to show support by honking. I also had three guys join me which was AWESOME – it made the time past faster and helped show even more “presence.” (Thanks Ryan, JB and Mike!)
When I shared some pictures from the day on Facebook, two friends gently pushed back a little at the “hate” language I was using. And I have to admit…they were right in doing so.
How does doing something like this make us any better or more right than they are? We don’t like it when they do this to us and yet we are the first ones to turn it around. Just asking?
It seems name calling and stooping to “their” level. I respect what you are doing, don’t get me wrong. I just don’t care for the wording on the posters.
There’s a fine line I guess between having fun, being “catchy”…and falling into the trap of “not being nice.” Heck, in my OWN “rules for picketing peacefully and lawfully” I had asked people to:
5. When in doubt take the higher ground.
6. Be kind – do not yell anything that would make your grandmother blush
7. Have fun – this is America, and we are all human beings. We are not the enemy, nor is anyone else. Keep it civil
So, I’m here to say that I’m human…I’m surrounded by people who care enough about this being a “peaceful and civil” stand…and I strayed from where I had wanted this to be.
Side note: I’m REALLY truing to avoid words like right and wrong, good or bad…in the spirit of non-violent (or compassionate) communication. I don’t want any of this to sound judgmental… either of the “logo spoof” or of my own efforts. I simply want to compare MY actions to MY intentions and needs…that’s all I have control over. And when I do…with the help of these friends…there was an inconsistency.
SO – thank you to Jack F. and Mike B. for having the integrity and courage to call me out…I REALLY appreciated it (and said so on Facebook). But, I just wanted to share my learning here…
Now…enough with the personal flogging! Back to HAVING FUN and SPIRITUAL GROWTH!
I’ll close with the Universe’s gift to my journey…(funny how things come just when they are needed…). This video from HoneyMaid is going viral this week…another good reminder!
So with it, I’ll go back to re-making some signs for tomorrow…and I’ll remember NOH8…just PEACE and LOVE. And where there is hate or negativity…avoid the trap, and turn it into something else…St. Francis had it right in his prayer. 🙂